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Book Review: The Examined Life, How we Lose and Find Ourselves by Dr. Stephen Grosz

This is a very interesting non-heavy book if you are interested in psychoanalysis.
Each chapter is an anecdote of a patient that Dr. Stephen Grosz has had throughout his 20+ years career.
The read goes by so quickly and his style of writing is intriguing and captivating. He begins each chapter talking about a patient, giving very brief overview of their history & relationship “I had been seeing Ms. N for four years when she came to me one day…”
He lays out the main issue that him and the patient were tackling, giving away snippets of their conversation as well as how it made him, as a psychoanalyst react. He then continues to explain the conclusion they reached, and the underlying fundamental reason that he came to conclude was the issue with that particular patient (this is usually in the name of each chapter).

There is also quite a few moments of self-reflection which Dr. Grosz writes about, which stems from his experiences with his patients. He even has a chapter on his father.

Dr. Grosz has written an enriching read that confronts the issues of why we act the way we do, and gives suggestions and examples that he has come across throughout career. Perhaps a story will touch you in a certain way and push you to accept or confront an similar issue that arises within yourself, or those you know. Overall an easy read with clear and interesting explanations, not to mention enjoyable, highly recommended!

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Having an Eeyore Day

“The old grey donkey, Eeyore stood by himself in a thistly corner of the Forest, his front feet well apart, his head on one side, and thought about things. Sometimes he thought sadly to himself, “Why?” and sometimes he thought, “Wherefore?” and sometimes he thought, “Inasmuch as which?” and sometimes he didn’t quite know what he was thinking about.”

I am a big fan of the wise words of Winnie-the-Pooh and his deranged friends.

So when you’re feeling down, it’s ok to have an Eeyore day where you think about nothing, and everything, or just don’t know what to think about. Commit to it, Live it. Just try not to let it drag on to other days of the week…because at that point you’ve just become an Eeyore, and no one wants to be around a mopey ass all the time.

However, having said that, you can allow yourself a few Sundays a year to just be gloomy confused Eeyore… add some Billie Holiday into the mix and you’ve got yourself a perfect grey-day mood. If you’re going to have a gloomy Sunday, you might as well make it a good one.

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No Patience for Patience. It’s a high-tech life.

It’s funny that these days with every interaction being information overload, people strive for “slow-living” & the whole “slow-movement” thing, yet get frustrated when it’s just not working! No one seems to have the patience for patience. So even though meditation and relaxation is what everyone seems to be longing for, to get away from the wireless atmosphere and data digitally seeping into our brains, the strive for inner peace is just tooooo time consuming. So in order to get away from technology, we must use technology!

Dying to check your Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest or any other of the numerous social media apps you have? Trying to work while you’re heart’s begging to visit some other ‘distracting website’ (guilty: Mashable, Food Network, random ‘how did I end up here?’ YouTube videos). Why rely on will power??? Ain’t nobody got time for that! Self Control app timer will forbid it for you! -and in case you’re not a mac user, Self Restraint app will forbid it for you! And if you can handle the internet, just not your friends, there’s always the more mellow option of just being Anti-social.

What about those times when you just need to zen out? No time for mediation? Then Buddhify your life!  Buddhify is a smartphone/ tablet app that allows you to meditate on-the-go. That’s right, on the bus? That’s fine! On the train? Fine again! On your bike? mmm….Maybe not so fine!

Buttt – if someone else is driving the moving mode of transport you so happen to be in & you don’t mind closing your eyes and breathing deeply on public transport for a good five minutes, then this is YOUR app-to-go-to.

Not only public transport, walking down the street or at the gym are also options!  Oh & ofcourse you can always just sit at home and do it – if you’ve got the time for that.

However, while we find ourselves in a rush to get our to-do-list done & our social media online presence up-to-date, let’s remember the wise words of our pink friend piglet:

“Don’t underestimate the value of doing nothing, of just going along, listening to all the things you can’t hear, and not bothering.”

*quote from winnie-the-pooh, A.A. Milne

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